The main reason I have not wanted that label is because I am not just a Pastor’s WIFE, I am a Pastor. I work for the church, I do Pastoring duties (counseling, shepherding, etc) as well as a lot of other responsibilities. Tim and I make decisions about the church together. We work together on many aspects of the church right now.
So, I take it as an insult to be called the “Pastor’s Wife”.
I have been following a few blogs and met some wonderful ladies at a “Virtual Roundtable”. They are all Pastor’s Wives. I, honestly, had a hard time even participating in these “Virtual Roundtables” a little bit because I didn’t want my role to be looked at as just the Pastor’s Wife.
But, this thought is very, very slowly starting to seep into my brain and heart: I AM a Pastor’s wife. I am married to a Pastor. I am a wife. That means that I am a Pastor’s Wife.
That doesn’t have to negate the other things I do. It is just one of the responsibilities I DO have.
So, what does that mean? What does that look like? To be a Pastor’s Wife, but also a Pastor?
Well, that is much more complicated. It means a tough job of balancing life! And it is something that Tim and I are trying to muddle through and work out. I don’t have all the answers or the road well mapped out. But we are trying to figure it out so we can be the best we can for each other first – even before the church!
I have to remember, and cherish, that I am the only wife Tim has. The church can have other leaders, but Tim cannot have other wives. That role is unique to me ONLY! I have to take care of that role. Proverbs 31 states that this woman had a business, and she was good at it. But she was praised for her role as wife and mother.
Tim and I are working hard at carving out time to be attentive to one another. After Caleb is asleep, we put church stuff aside for a time and just be together. I know this sounds so “well, duh!”, but this is hard for me to do sometimes. I can be a workaholic, especially when I love what I do! But I love my marriage more, and we need to do this. We are being much more intentional with words, hugs, etc. so that we take care of this relationship. The church can be gone one day, but this relationship will last until we die. We MUST take care of it.
My role of Pastor’s WIFE is important. I gotta take care of my man!
So, for now, that title of “Pastor’s Wife” is starting to not taste so bad in my mouth. I’m working on it.
I know, I’m messed up! But I never told you I had it all together!
What label of yours, whether given to you by someone else or by yourself, tastes bad in your mouth?