I don’t blog much about marriage. Maybe it’s because I don’t think I really know enough to share with anyone else. Maybe it’s because I don’t spend enough time thinking about it or doing much about it. I don’t know, but I don’t hardly ever write about my marriage.
Marriage is hard. It is full of sacrifice, work, choices.
One of the things Tim and I are trying to do right now is give our relationship a bit more attention. We’re not teetering on the edge of divorce or anything like that (although we’ve been close before), we just know that we need to give that area of our lives a little more care and attention.
Life has been intense to say the least. A lot of other things vie for our attention, and most often win. There is church, Caleb, cleaning, veg time, our own personal desires, financial stress, family, friends, work….
Each decision can nudge you closer together or farther apart. Even those “little” decisions, that aren’t bad in and of themselves, when not monitored can cause you drift farther and farther apart.
When we choose TV or work or internet or cleaning or (insert your own here) over our relationship over and over and over it causes us to drift apart. Each of those things are not bad! But choosing them over and over and over and over instead of our partner can be very detrimental.
So, I am wanting to do what I can to make our relationship better. I want to make good choices to do things to draw closer to Tim. It’s hard. Life is SO demanding. But living far apart is miserable.
What are your secrets to a healthy marriage? The little things? The FREE things (we have no money right now and I’m low on creative ideas for this!)? What draws you closer to your partner?