We’re engaged…again…sorta

Tim proposed….again.

Our 11th wedding anniversary is June 5.

We could go one of two ways with this day:  mourn and be depressed about what has happened to us over these 11 years and what has happened more recently.  OR celebrate where God has brought us over these past four months and commit to this process of restoration and allowing God to bring life out of the destruction.

We chose the latter.

We are going to renew our vows in a very small, simple ceremony on our anniversary.  We have invited family and a few friends who have walked this road with us and stood by us and cried and prayed with us.

Unfortunately, there are some who don’t believe this ceremony should happen.  They believe it is too soon to celebrate anything and we are rushing things.  And that is hard to accept, but everyone is entitled to their opinion.  I don’t know, maybe that is what you are thinking as you read this.

But we feel that this is what we need to and want to do right now.  While it’s hasn’t been a year or years since Tim confessed to me, God has done some amazing work in each of us.  And we want to celebrate that.  And we want to say that we are committing to restoration.  We are committing to walk this road together with God guiding our steps.

With that being said, we KNOW this is just the beginning.  We in NO way think that this ceremony is the end or that things are “all good” now.  Quite the contrary!  If you only knew how much more work there was to do!  We know this road is long.  In fact, we don’t come to the end of this road until we are in Heaven.

But why would we want to wallow in the misery only?  Why would we not want to take an opportunity to rejoice in the miracles God has already performed.  And commit to Him our promise to continue this work and to restore our marriage and our family.

I believe June 5 is going to be a mixture of joy and pain.  There will be tears of joy shed (for sure!) and I think there will be some tears of sadness shed as well.  But that’s life.

I am excited for June 5.  I am excited to take that day back, to redeem it.  I am looking forward to divorcing our old marriage and starting a new life together (in some ways).  It in no way erases what has happened.  But we can have some fresh start to the rest of our lives together.  And we want the days ahead to be nothing like the days behind.  God is bringing life out of destruction as ONLY HE can do!


15 thoughts on “We’re engaged…again…sorta

  1. I don’t know you but I support you 100%. May your day be blessed, full of love and joy. I pray that God honors your public step towards restoration and forgiveness. I got a hunch He will. :0)

  2. Congratulations! There is nothing at all wrong with wanting to live in this moment – the moment where you’re feeling hope and honoring the progress that has been made and looking forward to the growth that is to come. Don’t let the naysayers get you down! It hasn’t been years yet, but hopefully years from now you’ll be able to say that and will be able to look back on all the celebrations you’ve had together since this moment in time.

  3. The strength of God’s restoring power is something we cannot comprehend, let alone others. I am praying for you both that as you renew your vows on June 5th, that even more healing will come. Yes, tears of sadness will flow, but I am praying for even more tears of joy! God has a plan and a purpose for your lives together. I am thankful He’s brought you to this place.

  4. Vicky, I send you my blessings 100%. You know that I fully support you and Tim. I am so glad to hear that you are pushing forward with such gusto. I think this is a wonderful way to celebrate the strides you’ve made. How very romantic.

  5. Hi Vicky:

    Great to hear things are working out! I’m still praying for you two. Think renewing your vows is a great idea.


  6. As your other loyal friends are saying, pay no attention to the opinions of those you feel are not supporting you. Your marriage is between you and Tim and God. So follow the direction you get from God.

    As for the rest of us, while we do our best to support and encourage you in the way we think best (by positive words or by challenge), your marriage is ultimately none of our business.

    I am very happy to hear of your decision. May God continue to bless you as you seek him first. Love you.

  7. Our anniversary is also June 5th…17 years for us this year. I say…celebrate where God has done in your journey as a married couple. Don’t let anyone discourage you. CONGRATS!! What a testimony you have for “sticking in there” and being restored!

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